If children become what they see, then it is on the parent to model the expectation. Oftentimes, parents interchange the word “expectation” with “perfection.” Perfection should never be the goal because there is no such thing as the perfect child nor parent.

What does stability look like in your family dynamic as a single mom? Are you meeting the expectations that you require? As for me and my house, being a stable figure means allowing my son a front-row seat at learning that mommy isn’t “superwoman.” I allow him to see a woman doing her very best to provide him with love, a quality education and meaningful experiences (culturally, spiritually, professionally and more) while making room to navigate her own dreams. Being stable is the most important gift I can give to my son.

Mama, free yourself from the ideology of life as you imagined. You are everything you need to be.

All in all, I hope my life lessons as a single mother can serve as a catalyst for you to make room to look within and journal what your journey has taught you thus far. Just know, you’re doing a phenomenal job by showing up for you and yours every day.

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